As a person with a disability:
- Do you often feel that your success will be limited?
- Do you often feel you have no control over what happens in your life?
- Do you often feel that bad things, including rejection, will always happen to you?
- Do you feel that others are always to blame for your lot in life and there is nothing you can do about it?
If these kinds of thoughts happen occasionally, that is not uncommon. However, if you have these feelings most or all the time, then you are living life with a victim mentality!
The victim mentality is when a person feels like a victim in many to every situation, even when evidence is presented that suggests or proves otherwise.
Persons with a disability who have a victim mentality always seem to have an explanation for why they are not successful, and that explanation frequently blames persons without disabilities by using the word “ableists” and blaming the world which they call an “ableist society”.
When a person blames others and believes the world is against them, this is a sign they are not taking ownership of their actions or even their life.
Here is a little quiz that will help you see if you are living with a victim mentality.
- Do you blame others for your lot in life?
- Do you not take responsibly for your life?
- Are you hypervigilant around others and in society?
- Do you feel that others, in particular persons without disabilities, have it easier than you?
If you answered yes to 3 or more of those questions, then more than likely you are living with a victim mentality and that is dangerous.
Why is victim mentality dangerous? Because it can and will impact many areas of your life, including relationships, work, health, and your professional success.
The victim mentality can lead to feelings that others who you perceive to have power over you and who are more successful than yourself are entitled and privileged which may lead you to feel oppressed and discriminated against which may lead to feelings of self-pity and if not careful, victim mentality can lead to self-hatred, and all of this can lead to low self-confidence.
Victim mentality is a mindset and to overcome victim mentality you must change your mindset.
Changing your mindset
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When you are ready to take your next three steps to build and grow your self-confidence, then it is time for you to grab a copy of my free cheat sheet, “Your next three steps to self-confidence”. My cheat sheet contains 3 actionable steps you can start doing today to become the self-confident person you desire to be. Grab your free copy now by pointing your browser to “TheChrisMitchell.com/cheatsheet”.
Do it now, your future self-confident self is waiting to thank you.